10 Compliments You Should Never Give to Anyone

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Each of us enjoys receiving compliments, but only when they are sincere, true, and not fake and superficial, similar to flattery or a desire to tease.

Here are a few phrases that we don't like to hear addressed to us, and which should be avoided in communicating with the people around us.

“You are so strong, you will cope”

This phrase is usually said to a person who is going through a difficult period in their life. On the one hand, the interlocutor seems to admire you, and on the other hand, he hints that you can not expect help from him, and should rely only on yourself. That is, you are simply abandoned to your fate, alone with your own difficulties. It is especially sad to hear such words from loved ones.

“You have lost so much weight!”

Another interpretation of the phrase: a person used to be slim, and now they are being told to lose weight. Such a compliment can only be given to a friend who has been working out, dieting, and dreaming of becoming slim, and everyone knows about it. It's just better not to say such things to people you know.

“You have such a beautiful smile! Smile more often!”

These words directly indicate that a person most often walks around gloomy, sad, and radiates only negativity. If you want to cheer someone up, it's better to cheer the person up with a joke or frankly ask what's bothering them and why they're sad.

“How did you manage to do it?”

The subtext of this phrase is this – the interlocutor doubted the person’s abilities and was sure that he was a failure, that he would not be able to cope with some problem. And then suddenly something incredible happened: the person showed himself better than expected. Therefore, such a compliment sounds very offensive to the person to whom it is addressed.

It is better to say: “You are a great person! I knew that you would succeed! I did not doubt you.”

“You have so many children – you are a holy woman”

At first glance, there is nothing of the sort in this phrase, but there is a subtext of condemnation of a woman's life choice. That is, the interlocutor hints that having a large number of children is already strange, a deviation from the norm. The question of their financial security, the family's well-being, is immediately raised. Allegedly, in order to feed such a large family, one has to work very hard, fall off one's feet at several jobs, etc. Any mother would be unpleasant to hear such a dubious compliment.

“Creative clothes! Dare!”

Usually, such a compliment hints at some flaws in the figure. For example, a chubby girl wore a revealing dress or a short skirt. And the interlocutor conveys the idea with this phrase: “You can't wear such a short skirt with such forms.” It is unpleasant to hear such words, because they focus attention on shortcomings, hit on “sick places” and hang a bunch of additional complexes. Let's not judge other people's choices, especially when it comes to image, appearance. Clothes are just a way of self-expression.

“You have a very unusual look”

This compliment is synonymous with the previous one. “Well, you're a freak,” is the second interpretation of this phrase, in which there is a sense of condemnation. We are hardly talking about admiration here, so it is not surprising that such a compliment will definitely not cause admiration in the interlocutor.

“You look great for your age”

This phrase raises the issue of age. A person is clearly hinted that it is outdated. Do not say such words to close or unfamiliar people.

“You have a very beautiful wife (husband)”

Another interpretation of the phrase: “What is such a beauty doing next to such an unattractive man , how are you?” Be careful when talking about the appearance of the interlocutor's partner. Your words can be misinterpreted.

“So beautiful. And why without a boyfriend?”

Being in a couple or not is the choice of each person. There is no need to perceive loneliness as something shameful. With such a phrase, you hint to a person that something is definitely wrong with him.