10 signs that your girlfriend is toxic

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“A friend in need will not abandon you, will not ask too much” — that's how we used to think about true friendship. But what if your friend is not like that at all? And you feel uncomfortable in her company — as if you are stupid, ugly, clumsy… compared to her, of course.

How to identify toxic relationships between close friends in order to end them in time?

She is not happy for you

If you share good news with your friend or tell her about your achievements, and in response you hear only sarcastic comments or complaints about fate-thief, this is a “bell”. A true friend is always ready to share your emotions, including joyful ones. And if your joy is devalued, attributing your success to a lucky accident, this is a direct blow to your self-esteem, which a toxic friend will “drown” again and again.

She is jealous of you for no reason

Your communication with a friend begins with her threatening: “Where were you? What were you doing? Why didn’t you call me?”, and you feel like a first-grader who did something bad? You shouldn’t justify such a person — her claims will only lead to a more acute conflict in the future. You are not her property and are not obliged to inform her of every step, especially to make excuses for the time spent without her.

After communicating with her, you feel devastated

You went for a walk with a friend, talked, and as a result, you feel as if Dracula has been drinking your blood all this time? Well, it's time to think about whether you need friendship with such a “vampire”? Communication with a loved one should inspire and fill you with energy, and not lead to complete exhaustion.

You are trying to hide some information from her

“She won’t like it,” you think and don’t tell your friend about your new hobby or interesting events. And, actually, why? A true friend will be understanding of any news, she is interested in everything related to you, and a disdainful snort or an eloquent eye roll is the fate of toxic people.

She violates your boundaries

A friend might call in the middle of the night because she's bored and can't sleep? She's convinced that you have nothing more important to do than talk to her and gets offended when you politely decline a shopping trip in favor of urgent work? Something's wrong here. Do you agree? When a person decides for you what's important and what's not, and uses your time without remorse, it's time to reconsider the relationship, even if it's with an old friend.

She likes to point out your flaws

A toxic friend loves to talk about your shortcomings. On occasion, she will gladly remind you of some flaws or ridiculous situations that happened to you in the past, and criticizing your tastes or opinions is generally her favorite pastime. Because she is always impeccable. Why would you want to communicate with such a star? Your self-esteem clearly does not need its correction.

Your friendship turns into a competition

If your relationship with a friend begins to resemble a competition, it is time to tell yourself “stop”. Friendship is about mutual interest, support and communication on equal terms, not a competition about who has a thinner waist or more fans.

She exploits you

You are supposedly friends, but for some reason she treats you like a person without rights who always has to stand “behind the counter” and wait for the “mistress” to give her orders. You don’t have the right to refuse to fulfill your friend’s request (or order?), because she will immediately start scolding you, or even make a scandal… Does this picture sound familiar? Arrogance and shamelessness are the faithful companions of toxicity, keep that in mind.

She constantly gives you advice

A friend can’t resist giving you persistent, albeit completely useless, advice — on how to dress, how to behave, how to raise children… And she doesn’t doubt for a second that she always knows better, and you should be grateful to her for her valuable advice. No, this isn’t a sign of care. It’s more like a desire to subjugate another person and turn them into a puppet.

She doesn’t consider your feelings

Toxic people don’t think about the fact that they might offend someone with their own words or actions. They speak disparagingly of those who dare to get angry at their “bitter truth.” And some especially toxic ones intentionally offend others, they like to feel their power over the emotions of others. If your friend is one of those who doesn’t give a damn about other people’s feelings, perhaps you should limit such communication. Otherwise, she will hurt you without any regret. Do you need it?

A toxic friend will always be a source of negative emotions for you. It would be a mistake to think that she will improve or that it is “just her character”. This friendship will not bring you joy, so it is important to get rid of such a friend in time – you should not waste time and energy on a person who does not appreciate it.