8 False Myths About Men That Women Still Believe

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Do you think all women know in advance how relationships work? Unfortunately, this is a stereotype based on the simple fact that for a long time, the role of guardians of the family hearth was imposed on the weaker sex.

Girls were fed false statements from childhood, role scenarios were hammered into their heads, after which they began to believe in their special status. But what if we debunked a few myths that only hinder healthy relationships with men? So, here are 8 statements about men that women mistakenly continue to believe.

If you want a man, make the first move

It would seem that the quote is in the spirit of modern times, when everyone creates their own happiness. The trick is that, showing persistence and activity first, a woman with a 100% probability will come across a passive lazy person and a consumer who will not lift a finger for her sake. After all, she can handle everything herself – she takes care of him, surprises him, decides everything. Such guys quickly relax and do not overburden themselves with appropriate care. The woman got to them too easily, so she does not represent any value. Do you want to get a reliable and responsible guy? Then leave the role of leader and conqueror to the man.

Scandals in the family are taboo

Yes, the stronger sex does not like scandals, whims or bad mood of the partner. But you cannot build family happiness if you are constantly silent and ignore internal discomfort. By keeping quiet about problems, not voicing your thoughts and desires to your husband, we will kill our marriage much faster. Resentment does not disappear anywhere, tension grows and requires an outlet. It is a high-quality quarrel, in which lovers will be able to express themselves and hear each other, share fears and come to compromises, that strengthens intimacy.

Intimate intimacy is the best way to tie a partner

Yes, without it, relationships with men lose their attractiveness, become too “spiritual” and “illusory”.

The problem is that women again draw conclusions based only on their own opinion. They give themselves to a man when he means something to them, when they join him physically and emotionally. But the stronger sex is not so romantic and can quite “eat from another plate”. Therefore, you can’t keep a man with just one bed, you need something more – charisma, intelligence, common hobbies, emotional and everyday comfort. Intimacy is a good start, but if this is the only thing a woman can offer, it won’t be enough for a long time.

Meeting his parents is a good sign

But no. Sometimes this gesture doesn't mean anything at all, it's just the way it is done in his family: he shows all his mistresses to his mother so that she can give her professional assessment and recommendations. Or his parents are favorable to any of the new passions. So don't be in a hurry to happily rub your hands together, it's better to find out how many women he brought to you.

He lied and cheated with someone else, everything will be different with you

The hormones of love make it difficult to assess relationships with men realistically, and it would be worth holding your horses back a little. People rarely change, only the grave will fix a pathological liar, womanizer or tyrant. So you shouldn't overly romanticize the situation. No matter how caring, loving and incredible a woman you are, you can't change a person's character and habits, their worldview, self-esteem, only they can do all this themselves. So be careful if a person has had three marriages before you that broke up through their fault. Remember, you are next in line.

After the wedding, he will definitely change

A drinking man will stop drinking, an aggressive man will stop raising his hand, and a lazy man will suddenly get up from the couch and build a huge corporation. This is a wonderful fairy tale to lull your vigilance, justify your partner's current incompetence, or deceive your own expectations. But miracles happen quite rarely. If a person wants to, he does it, if he doesn't want to, he looks for an excuse. So getting married won't change anything, you will be disappointed again and will start feeding yourself breakfast: “Let's have a baby, take out a mortgage, change jobs, and then…”. Lies.

Doesn't want to get married? Pregnancy will inspire him

Where will a man go who has been pinned against the wall by a positive pregnancy test? The mind whispers that a child will strengthen the marriage, make the man more responsible, decisive, and attached to the home.

But this doesn't always work. You can raise a child in a guest marriage without any clichés or obligations. You can pay child support and be a Sunday dad. Or you can just wave your partner off and go somewhere. Especially if the man had doubts about the relationship, wasn't ready for marriage, or already had a family at the same time. So this method is not a panacea. If you decided to give birth – think again, will you accept such a “gift” alone?

A man can always be reeducated

A little patience, positive examples, and quality guidance – and the man will be polished. You will make an alpha male out of a coward, and a business shark out of a loser. True, this is only possible in theory, in real life, relationships with men are not like a pink pony. Thousands of women have experienced fiascos before you. And all because it is impossible to grow a rose from a stone, train a cat to be a horse, instill in a person qualities that they never had. If a man loves, he can partially change his habits. But his character will not change significantly, so blackmail and criticism will not help.

What to do? Look for positive traits and build on them. If, of course, you love the man himself, and not fantasies about him.