A professor of psychology explained why spouses do not understand each other

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Research shows that that in the United States, about a quarter of couples who seek help from a psychologist have at least one serious problem. Spouses simply do not understand each other.

Psychology professor David Ludden explained to Psychology Today that people have to specially learn to communicate with their husbands. The ability to express one's thoughts and understand what a life partner is saying helps to build a strong family and preserve relationships for many years.

According to a common stereotype, spouses should understand each other's half a word. Many couples, after several years of living together, really intuitively feel the subtle nuances of each other's emotions and thoughts, especially in familiar situations. But during quarrels, this ability is often lost, the psychologist warns.

Many people do not know how to see the situation from another point of view, explained Ludden. They consider many things to be obvious and need no explanation. A psychologist warns that this leads to dangerous mistakes in relationships. A couple who wants to build a strong relationship should always remember that their other half can have, and often already has, their own point of view on any issue – from the amount of salt in a dish to a political position. If you find out exactly what your life partner means, you can avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.

Sometimes one of the spouses simply refuses to accept his or her partner's unpleasant statements. Researchers do not have accurate data on how often such behavior occurs, but psychologists do occasionally encounter such cases, Professor Ludden said.