Don't Ignore It: 5 Signs You're Just Being Used

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Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and psychological influence that causes the victim to doubt themselves and ultimately lose their sense of reality, identity and self-worth.

Assertions and accusations of a gaslighter are, as a rule, outright lies or distortions of real facts. The term came into use after the movie “Gaslight”, released in 1944. In the film, a man tries to convince his wife that she is crazy, causing her to doubt herself and her perception of reality.

Here are 5 signs that you are in such a relationship:

You are constantly apologizing

A victim of gaslighting constantly apologizes for the mistakes made, even if in fact it is not his fault. A constant feeling of guilt means that the responsibility for all real and imagined problems rests on one person – that is, the victim.

In the end, it turns out that the culprit is always innocent, and the victim is always guilty.

You can't make decisions

Victims find it very difficult to make decisions because they feel that whatever decision they didn't, it will incorrect.

If all their words and actions are wrong, how can they make the right decision? This leads to the fact that all decisions are made by the aggressor; and this, in turn, gives him even more power and control.

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Victims of gaslighting are constantly unable to understand what is happening. It is very difficult for them to trust their own impressions, and they constantly doubt their thoughts. Their instincts do not work, because they should get involved, as they are immediately explained that they are wrong.

The victim often understands that something is wrong, but it is extremely difficult for him to formulate for himself what exactly it is.

You you begin to change

Changes are not always visible immediately, as they usually occur gradually. Because of this, they are perceived as something natural. But if the victim remembers what she was like before the beginning of the relationship and compares herself with herself now, she will notice drastic changes.

You withdraw into yourself

A victim of gaslighting often withdraws into himself and avoids others because he feels too humiliated and devalued to communicate with people. The victim is more comfortable alone than in the company of other people, because she is afraid of questions about what is happening in her relationship and does not know how to answer them.

Unfortunately, almost everyone experiences gaslighting in this or that moment of life. If you are in such a relationship or know someone who is, don't be silent!