How war affects sex life
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During life-threatening events, reproductive function can shut down. For example, women often miss their periods. But another reaction is also possible – hypersexuality. It may be based on an evolutionary mechanism – the desire to leave offspring before the threat of death. Sex is also used as a way to regain control, get pleasant emotions and relax.
Due to constant stress and uncertainty, long-term lack of sleep, depressive states, taking certain medications, libido can decrease. Women have difficulties with arousal and reaching orgasm, men have premature ejaculation and no erection.
Survivor's guilt, thoughts about “how can I have sex when others are dying” can also cause a decrease in sexual performance. desire.
If the lovers haven't seen each other for a long time, then you shouldn't immediately expect passionate nights after the meeting either.
After long-term abstinence, there are difficulties in achieving an erection in men and orgasm in women. It's normal, don't worry. Sexual function will recover after some time, but before that, think about how to express your feelings in a different way.
Information about rape can cause increased anxiety, rejection of the partner, reluctance to be close. You can identify with the victims, and then the excitement will be frightening.
It is important to talk to your partner about your feelings. This will make him understand that your reluctance to have sex is not because of him. If this state continues for a long time, it is worth working through these feelings of disgust, fear, and shame with a specialist.
Interpersonal conflicts intensify during war. Exaggerated expectations from a partner, the inability to define one's boundaries, different views on the need for evacuation/being in storage — all this leads to mutual resentment and disappointment. It has a negative effect on libido. It is also sometimes difficult to be alone due to the lack of personal space.
It is important to remember that intimacy in a relationship can be preserved thanks to hugs, kisses, and gentle words.< /strong>
Whether or not you have sex during a war is your couple's decision. Everything that is happening to you is normal now. You have the right both to continue sexual life and to take a break. But try to talk to each other about your feelings and find a way to maintain intimacy in a relationship that suits both of you.
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