Loneliness can bring happiness

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Ask any person what she is most afraid of-and the list is sure to be loneliness. Try to stay alone. Slide the support and shadows, look in your eyes and learn not to look. And believe me: soon you have to find moments to be alone with yourself.This is especially true of women: if they are not married or any relationship, they are immediately recognized as failures. That is why not everyone dare to divorce, even if unhappy marriage or toxic. “How am I alone?” – This is the most common phrase that can be heard in this case, and it is not always about possible financial problems. The fear of money is much weaker than the horror when there will be a partner nearby.

When people learned how to cultivate the land and lined that patriarchal rural manner, whose traits were present in our life today – loneliness meant the inability to get a living. To plow and sow simpler all together. To survive, one must belong to some community, clan, family, especially if you are a woman.

have passed centuries, everything has changed beyond recognition, and the formula “loneliness is death” seems to be stuck in the human brain at the level of consciousness and subconscious.

But in addition to this reptile, almost reflex fear, there is another reason why we are so afraid of loneliness. And it is that we are simply not able to meet ourselves. The Indian religious mystic Osho said: “Loneliness is a condition when you are sick with yourself, tired of yourself, tired yourself, and so you want to forget in someone else.” And we forgot – surrounded by God knows who, only “something living”. Partners with whom we are bad, friends with whom we are not interested, colleagues, who we know more than ourselves, children whose lives we live – are all shadows that cover us from us. Those who stand between us and the mirror that we are so scary to look. The fear of loneliness is the fear of self.

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Do you need to do something about it? Of course, since we ultimately have everything we have is ourselves. Education of children, creativity, kindness, love are impossible, if you do not feed them with their own soul. And the soul cannot be in desolation. Ask yourself: what are you afraid of staying alone? What do ghosts live inside you, who suggest, as if their own interests and joy can be put into the far corner, and life without people who, to put it mildly, do not decorate or make it easier – will it be empty and in vain? Such thoughts cause severe pain, forcing themselves to be afraid, to evaluate their own personality as weak. In fact, this pain is a sign of a huge vitality that flows into unnecessary relationships as a black hole

Meeting with yourself

Each of us has a sea of ​​energy, which, give it a will, will flash to heaven. But most often, all this bonfire people spend on maintaining themselves in a minimally warm state, on unnecessary and painful relationships, at fear. Such scenarios are always – come from family, since childhood, from the difficult experience we have experienced. To change these scenarios, to solve all the nodes that hold us on the way to a state of not showy, but true happiness – we need to meet ourselves, show interest in ourselves, learn to spend time alone with yourself. Often, you can not do without the help of a specialist, but to turn to him is the first step towards ceasing to be afraid of yourself, and therefore loneliness. After all, happiness is a state of inner fullness. When a person is filled with interest in the world inside himself, when he is interested in himself, he begins to communicate with others not from the disadvantage, but from excess. She has something to give, what to share without losing a drop of her own integrity. To be one is not a goodness, not a danger, not a terrible breakdown that should be immediately corrected by the materials that will be the first to turn into hand. Being one is the way to happiness, a way of self -knowledge and self -healing. It is the achievement of the internal balance that each of us needs. And when it comes to this balance, loneliness ceases to be possible. Man becomes a point of attraction, attraction for new people and events, phenomena and achievements.

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