Mother-in-law interferes in your family life: ways to quickly put her in her place

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It happens that the behavior of relatives becomes completely unbearable: they tell a young family how to live, make scandals and criticize without reason. It's time to take decisive action!

From time immemorial, the relationship between a daughter-in-law and her husband's mother has been characterized by drama. People have made up jokes and anecdotes about their mother-in-law, but not about their mother-in-law, because it's not funny at all. Times have changed a long time ago, but this conflict is eternal. We'll tell you what to do when your mother-in-law behaves defiantly.

Ignore and be silent

This method requires nerves of steel. But if you are in open conflict, try to behave as detached as possible. As they say, in war, all means are good.

If you apply the tactic of indifferent silence to all attacks and complaints, over time she will get used to this silent protest and stop coming with her advice and complaints. This will slowly but surely teach the annoying mother-in-law to keep her distance.

Straightforward refusal

A laconic “no” is often underestimated. But this simple word is the main assistant in attempts to defend your boundaries. You need to directly and categorically answer “no” to unsolicited advice, recommendations, and suggestions from your mother-in-law.

Of course, you can choose a more intelligent option and start with the words “thank you for your opinion, it is very valuable to me…”. But in fact, the clearer and calmer you say that you do not need advice, the faster it will reach the person.

There is, of course, a category of mothers-in-law who do not understand the meaning of things the first or second time. If your husband's mother is such a fool, you will have to listen to her every time, but in the end you will say “No!”. She will get there someday (let's hope so).

Tell me you can't talk

A technique that, as it turns out, works without fail. Your mother-in-law asks for something, gives unsolicited advice, grumbles, and you answer her: “I can't, it won't work, I don't understand, my head hurts. I feel bad, I'll go lie down.” What can you answer to such arguments? A person has a headache, what will you tell them to do?

For such behavior, you will be treated like Meghan Markle – condemned and discussed 24/7. And you don't give up and act like Megan – be a good wife, love your husband and let your head hurt only when his mother tries to blow your brains out.

Mirror

If she makes a dubious compliment about the fact that her son got an armless wife, half-jokingly answer that a man chooses a woman as his wife as two drops of water look like his mother… A couple or three similar answers and you will find a common language with your mother-in-law. Kindred spirits!