Psychologists have named phrases that you should not say if you want to succeed in life.

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When we say negative phrases, it greatly reduces the likelihood of achieving success in love or business. Psychologists will tell you what these phrases are and how dangerous they can be.

“I hope”

Hope is the last to die, but it's not worth repeating “I hope” all the time. The thing is, if you say, for example, “I hope things will get better,” you're putting it into question.

Always speak positively. This may seem difficult only to those who are used to doubting themselves. This does not mean that you will become self-confident and careless. It will simply give you confidence, which is very important. In the eyes of others, you will not seem arrogant. This is the only way you will stop programming yourself for failure.

“I don't have this”

“I don't have money”, “I have no friends” and so on. We like to say such phrases often, but they deprive us of the opportunity to find it. To unlearn yourself from saying such phrases, you need to think more often about where to get what you don't have. If there is no money, then you need to find another job or get a job.

It's also important to talk about what you already have, replacing what you don't have. For example, “I have no money” can be said “my budget is not designed for it”, instead of “I have no friends” you can say “I am looking for people close to me”. Focus on fixing what you don't like and you'll be fine.

“I should”

People constantly argue about who owes whom what. This word has a negative character: “I have to go to work”, “I have to exercise”. The problem is not how it sounds, but in what we think. We think that if we don’t exercise, we will get better, but without a job we won’t be able to buy food and pay for the apartment.

Many people are simply annoyed by how simple it sounds. Replace all possible “I have to” with “I want” or “I can”. The emotional coloring of your phrases will change forever. “I want to go to work to pay the bills”, “I can start going to the gym because it is important to me”.

“I had to do it”

“I should have bought a different car,” “I should have stayed a bachelor,” “I should have chosen a different profession,” and so on. The problem with all these phrases is that they make our past and our present closely intertwined. This prevents us from looking to the future.

We make a choice every day. If we think about what should have been done every time, we can turn into a pessimist. Remember that absolutely everything will never happen perfectly. You need to turn off this inner perfectionist in yourself.

Psychologists advise us to remember that only the current choice under the given circumstances is very important. You made a choice in the past because it seemed to you that it was the perfect step. Every decision is correct, so do not question it. Do not dwell on what would have been better. Tell yourself more often that you made the choice that was perfect for you at that moment. Don't regret the past. Otherwise, there will be no room in your life for the future.