Scrooging: A Destructive Dating Trend To Avoid During The Holidays

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During the holiday season – with Halloween, Christmas and so on – there's a trend in the dating world to watch out for. It's about scrounging.

What is scrounging and why should you watch out for it this holiday season

In the book, Scrooge is visited by 3 spirits who show him what he can happen if he does not change his life. And in today's dating world, scrounging is a practice that can ruin the holiday season for those who come across it.

It may not be as serious as hosting or gaslighting, but it is a very bad practice. It can have very negative consequences and can lead to relationships not progressing and dating going nowhere.

This practice is common around the December holidays, but it can happen and at other times, for example, on February 14, or on any other important date when there is some kind of celebration with gifts.

Psychology Today's Bruce Lee explains that scrounging is a sign that your partner is more interested in themselves than in you you, and not very committed to the relationship.

Some people may intentionally dump their partners before Christmas, Hanukkah, St. Nicholas Day, or any other holiday. This practice is called scrounging, when the main reason for rejecting a partner is to avoid paying for gifts, says Lee.

There can be many reasons for this. For example, the person you're dating doesn't feel connected to you and isn't very sure about the relationship, so doesn't want to give or pay for gifts so as not to give the impression that the relationship could be more serious or stable than she would like.

Or, say this person already has an 'alternative', such as another relationship, another potential partner, etc. Or it could be a temporary break simply to avoid investing in you and spending during the holiday season.

Whatever the reason, scrounging doesn't reflect very well on your partner. And you can assume that your partner was too cowardly to be honest with you, or too stingy, says Lee.

That is, in any case – this is a red flag that cannot be ignored. When this happens to you, you need to analyze the situation, talk it out, to find out what is going on. And take it as a sign to think about the relationship, its future and whether it is worth staying with this person.

Just don't think that everyone will do the same to you. A bad experience with scrounging should not be a reason to stop enjoying the holidays or trusting others.