The family therapist named 7 harsh realities of marriage that no one warns

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marriage, no one can ever think. However, no one can prepare for the strict realities of marriage that no one warns.

Family therapist Lianna Avila has named 7 harsh realities of marriage that no one warns the newlyweds.

1. You can forget why you fell in love with a person

after a while you married you can forget what you like in your husband. What made you understand that it is the person you want to be all life with? Write it down, so you will remember. It will also help you lift your mood and change your attitude to relationships.

2. You can understand that you stopped listening to each other

Listening is a truly gift to the couple. Listen without trying to correct or solve a man's problem. When you listen to your husband, you express your understanding. This is what we all want the most in the world. Do you know your husband's deepest secrets? If not, it's time to ask now. The relationship should be safety so they become deeper.

You create safety by listening and not criticizing your man when he opens to you. Couples often stop listening to each other sincerely in marriage. This phenomenon is sometimes called distortion of proximity when people can not listen so actively.

3. You can forget the force of commitment to partner

It is the thin things that are of great importance. Your husband can smile, make eye contact or nod. You have to come back to him when he does it. A smile usually works.

4. You can allow distracting factors to prevent

all have children, work and home, which makes it easy to move your relationship with your partner. Remember how it was at the beginning when you just started your relationship. You couldn't wait to meet each other.

“You wanted to see what your partner wears and find out as much as possible. I often see that life interferes with a relationship, ”Avila said. It's your time for each other. You can always ask a man as his day has passed.

when you see again in the evening, welcome each other. This means that you are removing electronic gadgets and allocating time for each other.

Do not allow external factors such as work, social networks, hobbies or daily affairs, distract you from your husband. Otherwise, it can lead to a lack of quality time, communication and emotional relationship in relationships, which can lead to tension and distance.

5. You can forget how to have fun

fun is what will keep you together. Especially when it comes not just about sharing smiles, but a real laughter.

6. You can stubbornly follow your expectations from the moment you have just started meeting

You are no longer the person who was at the beginning of the relationship and the partner too, as people tend to change. When you have been together for some time, it's easy to rely on your partner in everything. It is also easy to feel frustrated when your partner can't do everything. Be gentle with your partner and accept what has changed. This will help you change your look at the relationship.

If you don't change your expectations, your partner will feel that you are trying to change it. This will only cause the image in the long run. The expectation that the partner will not change over time will often be rooted in the pursuit of relationships for stability and certainty.

7. You can forget that you can't move on until you correct the problem

you can't move on if you have not solved a problematic situation. “I often see it in my practice, couples cannot survive the quarrel,” said a family therapist, adding that when this happens, the quarrel is ongoing.

One of the easiest ways to correct the situation is to admit that you have done wrong and apologize. Although it is easy in theory, it is one of the most difficult things for couples. It is also one of the best things you can do for your marriage. The apology should be sincere. When a man apologizes, you need to apologize and restore a normal relationship. “The good news is that you can recover your relationship, but it will take time. There is no easy solution, ”said the specialist.